Do You Know How To Use Affirmations? Learn From These Simple Tips
Using two resources for affirmations, some guidance as to the best use.
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Affirmations — the Best Kind Start With “I am.”
I recently came across an affirmation that I used for just one week, and it turned out to be one of the most powerful and transformative affirmations I’ve ever tried.
If you’re not quite sure what an affirmation is, think of it as a statement of truth or intention you repeat to help align your mind, energy, and actions. It’s simple and surprisingly effective.
The Best Affirmation I’ve Found So Far
I am self-defining.
It may sound simple, but it’s actually profound.
The phrase “I am” gives any statement immense power.
From an energetic perspective, it encompasses everything: body, mind, heart, life, dreams, emotions, and relationships.
When you declare “I am self-defining,” you’re reclaiming authorship of your life. You’re saying, I decide who I am.
What Happened When I Used This Affirmation
I committed to saying “I am self-defining” three times in a row, three times a day, for one week.
At first, I noticed that I wasn’t as self-defining as I thought. For instance, when a restaurant got my family’s drink order wrong, I didn’t send it back. (The polite British part of me couldn’t quite do it!)
But by the end of the week? Different story.
I am self-defining.
The affirmation helped dissolve the discomfort I used to feel about being assertive. I’ve learned that it’s okay if my assertiveness occasionally rubs someone the wrong way; it’s never my intention to offend, and I’m more at peace with standing in my truth.
I’ve also become calmer when making decisions and clearer about what I actually like. That alone would have made the practice worthwhile.
Another unexpected shift: I’ve started to notice when others aren’t self-defined. The clearer I become about who I am, the more I seem to invite clarity in those around me. This affirmation opens up space inside me to listen, to observe, to discern whether something truly aligns with who I am.
After all, I am self-defined.
What Does “Self-Defined” Mean to You?
Have you ever tried working with affirmations? What happened when you did? I’d love to hear your experiences, feel free to share them in the comments below.
Two Great Resources for Affirmation Work
Louise Hay — You Can Heal Your Life
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Louise Hay’s classic book You Can Heal Your Life has been in print since 1985 and remains a staple in many homes. A friend of mine calls it her “health bible,” and I always keep an extra copy on hand to lend out.
Louise’s groundbreaking insight was that the words we speak and the thoughts we repeat shape our emotional and physical well-being.
Modern science now supports what she intuited decades ago: that long-held negative emotions and thought patterns can contribute to illness, while positive, affirming states support healing and balance.
Amy Ahlers — Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves
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Amy Ahlers makes a crucial point early in this book: negative self-talk is exhausting and disempowering.
With an inner critic like ours, who needs enemies?
She offers practical ways to shift that inner dialogue, helping women (and the next generation watching us) replace self-criticism with self-compassion. I often use Amy’s exercises with my clients; they’re simple, insightful, and genuinely effective.
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