The cold hard ugly truth about spirituality
There is a lot written by myself and many others about our spiritual awakening here on the planet, how to grow spiritually and how to develop our self-awareness and mindfulness.
These are all wonderful practices and have great value in life.
There are some cold hard ugly truths about spirituality, too, however. Not so much about the practice itself, but more about the results you may find yourself having as you progress on the spiritual journey.
Friends and relations will fall away as vibration and awareness shifts
I have heard this from many people on the journey and have experienced it myself. Luckily I still have some good friends from long ago who are still stepping along on the journey with me.
It’s true, though. If you take the spiritual path, it’s highly likely that you will lose friends and possibly outlaw yourself from family. There are worse reasons to become the black sheep I suppose from your family’s perspective they might believe you have either completely lost it or are going against years of tradition or family history – and in some ways, you may well be doing exactly that.
The upside of this hard truth is that you will make many new friends along the way and possibly end up with a whole new concept of what family really is!
I have always loved this quote and am not quite sure where it comes from.
“You may meet people, but you will recognize friends”.
You will gain great insight into people’s motivations for good – or bad
It’s a fact that on the spiritual journey one of the coldest and hardest ugly truths is that you will learn a lot more about people’s motivations and inner workings than you would perhaps like to ever have seen – the spiritual version of Too Much Information!
The aha moments will come thick and fast as you realize why a certain person has acted a certain way – and it’s nothing to do with their interest, support or possibly love for you, nothing at all.
This is a really tough one to deal with. I believe spiritually we go through these experiences to wake us up to our own intuition and to remind us that the soul is with us all along. If we can choose to see things from the Soul level we will realize that a lot of our perceptions are related to projection, that is projecting our wants, needs, and desires onto others, so we fill in their gaps for them — whatever those gaps may be and get what we would like out of the situation, true or not.
Then comes the fateful day when the person acts as they really are and we see it from a higher level of awareness that we are now able to maintain, when before we only ever saw our own projection. It’s a game changer for sure.
As dear Maya Angelou always said
“When somebody shows you who they are – believe them”.
Sometimes we have to do a lot of work before we can truly believe!
The way you view the planet will never be the same again
I remember the first paradigm shift I had. At age 13 I read one of Gloria Steinem’s books (I was an early reader and my parents let me read almost anything I could get within reason). I read about certain parts of the world where women were circumcised and even had their genitals sewn up before marriage as a form of enforced chastity.
That was a huge shift for me. I suddenly realized that the world was not as friendly a place for women as I thought it was. This shift will keep happening to you in one way or another on the spiritual journey. Many of us are in group paradigm shifts so at least we are able to hold each other up. Some examples of current group paradigm shifts
– a growing awareness that the Food Industry is not our friend
– a need to change how we use products such as petroleum and plastic
– a realization that photo-shopping teenage girls and expecting the rest of the female population to measure up is a form of abuse for everyone concerned.
You will meet narcissists or maybe even realize that you are narcissistic in some way
There’s been a lot of talk on the internet about the Empath and narcissist dynamic. That the ‘narc’ is out there preying on Empaths and that the two personality types have a natural attraction to each other and create a symbiotic relationship more damaging to the Empath than the narcissist.
I do believe this dynamic exists and that an open and caring personality can be drawn in by another personality to do their bidding (especially if somebody has a borderline personality disorder or is an extreme narcissist).
This is really, really tough. Perhaps this time in history is our time to wake up to this unbalanced power dynamic. When I was younger I was fairly self-involved and interested in developing my career fully and earning as much money as I possibly could. Not interested in anything else, much. So you could say I have been a narcissist too.
Now as a mother I have had to open up to much more sharing, hold back on expressing a lot of my own personal interests in order to raise my children. In reality, the lessons are much more multi-dimensional than this. Let’s just say though the adventures heading towards energy balance so that we neither give nor receive too much can be a very painful and tortuous journey.
You can never go back
It’s true. Just like Joseph Campbell’s hero’s myth, or Lissa Rankin’s heroine’s journey, we can never go back once the changes are made.
Just like Luke Skywalker can never farm or work in a junkyard again, we cannot lose our new perspectives and experiences gained on the spiritual journey. We have changed, the river is no longer just a river, the valley is no longer just the valley.
We come bearing gifts, no matter how painful, hard, cold and ugly the truth is, we are living it now and the gifts change our perception completely.