Letting Go and Being Free – For Moms
On the Spiritual Journey – letting go and being free can be one of our hardest tasks – especially if we are parents!
Table of contents
- Letting Go and Being Free
- What’s on YOUR Ridicu-list?
- Moms Can Feel Pressure From Every Direction
- Why it Helps to Be Polychronic instead of Monochronic
- Martha Beck Also Offers This Equation – Flakiness Potential
- In Summary
- Learn More About The Akashic Records Readings I Offer
- Download the PDF Akashic Records for Beginners
Letting Go and Being Free
Letting go and being free — harder than it looks, simpler than we make it?
Learning to let go, stay present, and feel truly free can be both harder than it looks and simpler than we make it.
As a mom of two, part-time blogger, and Akashic Records Reader (among other things!), I often find myself wandering off the Spiritual Journey and straight into what I call the Ridicu-list. You may have heard of Anderson Cooper’s version — but mine’s specifically for parents.
And today, I’m writing especially for moms (since I am one).
What’s on YOUR Ridicu-list?
My mum didn’t have a dryer until we were teenagers — or a dishwasher, ever. Technology has made life easier in some ways, yet it’s also multiplied the expectations we carry.
She was endlessly busy: keeping house, shopping, doing laundry, growing fruit and vegetables, ironing Dad’s shirts, and cooking fresh dinners every night (except Fridays — that was fish and chips night!). She knitted, sewed, planned, canned, and jarred… the works.
My dad was busy too, but this post isn’t about dads. (Sorry, Dads!)
Back then, my mum’s role was clearly defined. There was no expectation that she should do more.
Now? Welcome to the modern Ridicu-list.
Moms Can Feel Pressure From Every Direction
How do we master the art of letting go and being free when our Ridicu-list seems to grow exponentially every time we turn around?
Today’s moms are expected to do everything our mothers did, plus manage a digital universe — after-school activities, homework help, emotional guidance, social calendars, and home projects… not to mention sending photos to Grandma and keeping up with that Pinterest-perfect yard.
When I start feeling overwhelmed and completely zone out — whether on or off the Spiritual Journey — I try to:
- Add some humor and act a little silly.
- Step off what my dad used to call The Magic Roundabout — the endless Circle of Life.
- Decide what’s truly essential in the next few minutes and do only that.
- Roll out my yoga mat (sometimes).
- Or just watch something funny on Social Media.
And then — after a few minutes — I hop back on, a little lighter than before.
Why it Helps to Be Polychronic instead of Monochronic
Yesterday, I narrowly avoided burnout thanks to an article by Martha Beck in O, The Oprah Magazine (March 2014 issue). I stepped off The Magic Roundabout, read her piece, and exhaled.
Martha wrote about our modern Ridicu-lists and the inevitable “flaking out” that happens when we can’t keep up. She explains:
Business experts use the word “monochronic” to describe people who focus tightly on linear sequences of tasks. Those who multitask and drift from one distraction to another are called “polychronic.”
Our culture has been deeply monochronic since the Industrial Revolution, when showing up on time and working in lockstep became essential. But now we live in a wildly polychronic world — trying to be monochronic only creates stress that makes us flakier.
That hit home.
Available on Amazon: Finding Your Own North Star, Martha Beck.
Working Life Vs Home Life – Letting Go And Being Free
Before children (BC!), I was deeply monochronic — suit, career, schedule, house, mortgage, check. I worked hard and played hard, in the same structured, linear way my parents (both WWII kids) did.
But raising children, especially in today’s millennial and post-millennial landscape, requires something different.
Kids are naturally polychronic! They move between moments fluidly, intuitively — and maybe part of our evolution is learning to do the same.
Now THAT Helps Me with Letting Go and Being Free!
BC (Before Children), I was definitely monochronic. I was an old young person by my mid-twenties, wearing a suit and blouse, had a career, a husband, a house, and a mortgage to boot. I worked hard and played too, but in a monochronic manner, as did my parents before me (both World War II children).
When it comes to child-raising and children, especially the millennial generations, they are naturally polychronic! IMHO – one of modern society’s shifts is (and will be) the act of throwing off monochronic thinking to grow and create new ways of being.
Martha Beck Also Offers This Equation – Flakiness Potential
She goes on to say…
If you want flakiness (zoning out) to decrease, you must push everything you possibly can into a zone she calls “Low Fear/High Love”. This creates something that we flakes call fun. In hindsight, it seems glaringly obvious that enjoyment decreases flakiness. Adults can become far more productive when their work feels like play. In our distracted era, fun can fight flakiness.
OK, now, writing is fun for me. That was fun!
Love to hear your techniques for having fun, letting go, and being free.
In Summary
Letting go and being free isn’t about doing less — it’s about loosening our grip on how we think it should all happen.
Life will always hand us lists, but we can choose how we move through them: with humor, lightness, and love. When we allow ourselves to be a little more polychronic — a little more playful — we rediscover the freedom that was never really lost.
Learn More About The Akashic Records Readings I Offer
I have found enormous personal growth from working within my Akashic Records since 2010. I took some training and learned to give readings. Connecting with your Akashic Records expands the connection to your Soul through your Higher Self (aka your intuition).
If you are interested in an Akashic Records Reading, I always recommend starting with the Soul Star Reading.
This reading gives you 3 different immersive experiences of the Akashic Records: –
- Connecting with your Divine Soul Blueprint (Soul-level gifts, talents, abilities).
- Hearing about a Past Life that contains a karmic pattern ready for clearing (you’ll recognize this pattern in your present life).
- Recognizing and clearing present life blocks and restrictions.
If you’d like to know about the different readings I offer on this site, start here>>
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