It Didn’t Start With You – inherited family trauma – book review
This book It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn begins the journey to a greater understanding of our generational trauma and how it can shape our unconscious lives.
Generational trauma, (also known as intergenerational trauma) can be a major influence on our ability to feel happiness and wellness because it affects the healthy expression of the DNA in our cells.
In this book, Mark Wolynn combines the latest knowledge about DNA, epigenetics and positive psychological work.
He puts these modalities into a comprehensive framework, giving us a path forward on the road to healing generational trauma.
What is the definition of inherited family trauma or generational trauma?
In ‘It Didn’t Start with You‘, Mark leads us through the energetic structure of the family body and generational trauma.
We all have a ‘family body’ comprised of three generations of shared family history passed on through our cellular biology.
Moreover, science now tells us that human DNA is more than just a simple blueprint. Prior to this new knowledge, the opinion was that genetic factors were passed on and that was simply the luck of the draw.
Furthermore, there is growing evidence that we can change the expression of our DNA blueprint!DNA switches can be activated through emotional intention and the change of mental and physical habits. We can clear generational trauma from our DNA blueprint - we don't have to live with it anymore.Click To Tweet
How does generational trauma pass down to us through our DNA?
It’s important to note that at least 3 factors are involved in the transmission of generational trauma from one family member to another.
1. Your time in your mother’s womb
Visualize the last three generations in your family tree, leading to you. (You, your mother and your grandmother).
As Mark Wolynn says in Chapter 2, ‘The Family Body’
Numerous studies now document that a mother’s stress, even as early as the first trimester, can affect her child.
One such study, published in 2010 in Biological Psychiatry examined…cortisol in the amniotic fluid of 125 pregnant mothers to determine stress levels.
The findings demonstrated that babies exposed to increased cortisol in utero…(resulted in) impaired cognitive development when they were evaluated at 17 months old.
2. Our ancestors’ DNA records environmental warning factors
DNA tagging is a process where environmental factors are encoded into children’s DNA, received as a result of their parents’ trauma. This can occur for up to 3 generations.
We have modified DNA passed down from our parents and grandparents which helps us to survive now, based on their experiences of danger or difficulty.
Here’s an example from the book in Chapter 1, Traumas Lost and Found
Rachel Yehuda, professor of psychiatry and neuroscience at Mount Sinai School of Medicine in New York…found that children of Holocaust survivors who had PTSD were born with low cortisol levels similar to their parents. (This had the effect of) predisposing them to relive the PTSD symptoms of the previous generation.
3. Epigenetics – change our emotional environment and we can change our DNA switches!
His research at Stanford University’s School of Medicine, between 1987 and 1992, revealed that the environment, operating through the cell membrane, controlled the behavior and physiology of the cell, turning genes on and off. (Bruce Lipton.com).
This discovery led to the science of epigenetics.
The biology of belief, or epigenetics, demonstrates that healing and balance can be attained in new ways. By taking steps to find balance in the mind and body first, we can affect how DNA functions within our cells.
As a result, this shift in mind and body chemistry switches off genes that remain active because of past trauma.
Dr. Bruce Lipton presents has created studies about these discoveries. You can learn more from his book The Biology of Belief 10th Anniversary Edition: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter & Miracles.
How to identify generational trauma, and what to do about it?
It can feel a little overwhelming to start with. After all, many of us have family members in our past few generations who experienced deep trauma. Many of our ancestors experienced 2 World Wars close to one another. Then there was the Vietnam War, the Cold War and various scuffles in the Middle East.
These wars may have affected many of our ancestors. Other life factors such as living through The Great Depression in the ’20s and ’30s may also have been passed down.
You are the bridge generation – use this new technology to help clear generational trauma!
One of my early Akashic teachers made a point that we are the bridge generation.
Our generation is in a place where we are spiritually and consciously awakening to the problems humanity has been causing itself.
This may seem like a slow awakening for some. As the bridge generation, the time is right to start using new energy modalities. Combined with new scientific knowledge and new energy psychology we can clear up past trauma.
Clearing generational trauma using ‘It Didn’t Start with YOU’
The 3 sections of the book are:-
- The Web of Family Trauma
- The Core Language Map
- Pathways to Reconnection.
The first section covers the creation and transmission of family trauma.
In the second section of It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle, we discover through studying our use of language how our Core Complaint has been created.
Importantly, our Core Complaint is the unconscious repetitive language we use as a result of being triggered by fear. Our unconscious inherited fears are the result of generational trauma from our DNA tags.
Once we can identify our Core Complaint, we can then use Core Language Medicine to counteract this language. When we change our language and face our Core Complaint, we break the links that keep us connected to generational trauma. Examples of our Core Complaint could be ‘I am not enough‘ or ‘I’ll be all alone‘),
In the third section of the book, we discover which present (and past) actions may impede our success in the future. Some examples are:-
- separation from a mother
- rejecting a parent
- an unconscious loyalty to failure
- past poverty
- personal guilt.
Generational trauma versus Past Life trauma – what’s the difference?
DNA tags from our physical ancestors create generational trauma. Past Life trauma relates to damage to our etheric body which has not been cleared from past life events.
Generational trauma and past life trauma are twin streams of consciousness affecting our present state. They are different and not directly connected.
We can clear Past Life trauma too, in different ways. One example of how to clear Past Life (etheric) trauma is to have a Soul Star Akashic Reading.
I hope you enjoyed this review of It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle.
As the human consciousness movement grows, we are beginning to realize that we can clear past (and present) generational trauma. We don’t have to live with it!