Spiritual Mediumship With My Mum Changed My Heart Forever
Losing a loved one, especially a parent, can be so hard. Can spiritual mediumship help? I believe it can help us to move through grief and carry on with our lives, carrying a sense of comfort with us. Read my healing story to find out more.
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That Day When You Have to Take a Parent to Hospice
Some days stay with you forever. They mark a turning point — not just in life, but in the heart.
This is the story of one such day, when love, loss, and the unseen all came together in a way I’ll never forget.
On the day I took my mum to the hospice, she had stopped eating and was no longer able to care for herself. She was also having fevers that left her confused and exhausted.
Although she was very upset about leaving her retirement flat, it was time for professional care. My brother had arranged the hospice, and I drove her there myself.
It was an emotional journey. You may have experienced one of these yourself with a parent.
Some of you may know that this blog began partly because of my experiences with spiritual mediumship connected to my mum.
Because I now live in the United States, I used the US spelling — and that’s how Mom On A Spiritual Journey was born.
My Mum’s Story
My mum got very sick partially as the result of an (unnecessary) H1N1 vaccination.
She was 82 at the time and knew immediately afterward that something wasn’t right. She began having severe back pain and was hospitalized soon after.
Despite her strength, the pain grew unbearable. I still remember the day she called me in tears, it was the first time I’d ever heard her sound so defeated.
Eventually, she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.
Even then, she insisted I start writing about what I know — to help others.
So, I did what my mum told me to do. I started this blog.
She also said something I’ll never forget:
“In 90 years, people will no longer die of this type of illness.”
— Margaret Hubbard
A Voice Comes In
I only had two weeks with her in the UK, and I tried to make the most of every moment.
That spring in 2010, I helped move her into the hospice my brother had found.
I drove her there, got her settled, and we waited together for the doctor.
Then, quite suddenly, I heard a voice in my head say:
“Thanks for all you’re doing for Margaret, ducky!”
Startled, I turned to her and asked, “Mum, who used to say ducky?”
Completely calm and smiling, she replied, “Oh, that’s Tony.”
When Mediumship Becomes Personal
If you’ve ever experienced something like that, you’ll know — reading about spiritual mediumship and living it are two very different things.
Tony was Mum’s brother (picture of Tony above). Their childhood had been unstable after their mother, my grandmother Amelia, passed away when Mum was only seven.
Mum was the youngest, with two older brothers: Tony and Richard (Dick).
Tony ran away at 13 or 14, and for decades, Mum never saw or heard from him again.
Thank You, Salvation Army
In her mid-sixties, Mum contacted the Salvation Army, hoping they could help her find Tony — and they did.
Their reunion was joyful. They had always been close as children, and it was as though no time had passed.
They spent days driving through the countryside, tracing family history, stopping for pub lunches, and simply enjoying each other’s company.
I met Tony only twice, but he had the same mischievous sparkle in his eye as Mum — that fearless “what the hey” approach to life.
When I was considering moving to the U.S. to marry my (then) husband, Tony told me firmly, “Follow your heart.”
He passed away about three years before Mum did.
“Remind Her About the Bell”
TAs we waited for the hospice doctor that day, another image appeared in my mind, a fire engine, the old-fashioned kind, parked beside a church gate.
Tony’s voice again:
“Remind her about the bell.”
Mum bowed her head, smiled shyly, and then laughed.
“We got into trouble,” she said. “Tony dared us to climb on the fire engine outside the church and ring the bell while the firemen were away. Our dad was furious!”
The story would have taken place before World War II — I can only imagine the telling-off they got!
Just then, the doctor arrived, and the moment passed.
The Following Two Weeks
Those two weeks with Mum were a gift.
I had the honor of giving her reflexology sessions for comfort, and I continued offering EMF Balancing Technique® energy work — though she could only take the work in small amounts over several days.
There were more moments of connection with relatives who had already passed.
Those experiences brought me peace. When I returned to the States, I felt comforted knowing she wouldn’t be alone, even when family couldn’t be there.
Hospice Workers Are Wonderful
During that time, I was humbled by the compassion of everyone at the hospice, staff and volunteers alike.
The doctors and nurses were remarkably open about experiences with “visitors from beyond the veil.”
When I shared what I’d heard and seen, they nodded knowingly and confirmed that these experiences happened often.
It seemed I was the most surprised person in the building.
And then there was the cake.
Tea and homemade cake are a British institution, and this hospice fully embraced that tradition. The trays of lovingly baked treats lifted everyone’s spirits.
To anyone who has ever volunteered, donated, or worked in a hospice — thank you. You are part of something profoundly sacred.
It’s Taken Me Three Years to Write This Down
I made notes about everything that happened back then, and today finally feels like the right day to share them here.
Grief, like healing, has its own timing.
If you’ve ever experienced similar moments during a loved one’s passing, I’d love to hear your story.
Until next time.
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26 Responses
Nicely shared, Sarah ! Working at Hospice is when reflexology found me 🙂 Spending time with those knowingly having very little remaining, is truly an honor. All sorts of revelations seem to perpetually evolve. . . . esp for those of us still muddling here on Earth, for now.
Thanks Catherine!
(Catherine is my reflexology teacher). This comment touches my heart.
Hugs
Sarah
SarahWhat a sweet story and I love the details of “ducky” and “the bell.” Wonderful confirmation…Nice to see the photos of you and your mum and Tony too.My mom had a rough day yesterday, not sure how much longer I will have her, some days I think, years, other days I think…days. Thanks for this perspective whilst I still have her around!love,Candace
Appreciate the comment and the sentiments Candace…if even one person is thinking this way as they read the post…my job is done!
Hugs and love
Sarah
Really lovely to hear more about your time with your mum. And I loved your comments about the hospice. What would we do without tea and cake :-). Made me a bit emotional actually.
It’s my Dad’s 80th birthday today and my Mum will be 80 next year and I try to appreciate the time I have with them whenever we speak or see each other – not always easy – but getting a lot easier.
Anyway thank you.
Lots of love
Jules
Glad you enjoyed it, Julie.
Always good to appreciate our parents whilst they are here…then it’s easier later on speaking from experience.
Thanks for taking time to comment.
Hugs from over here!
Sarah
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