What is narcissism and why have so many narcissists and empaths been together in relationships?
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What is a Narcissist?
Having experienced a narcissistic partner first hand, I will speak from what I know and have experienced.
I am a kind person, and in both my long term marriages, I gave both partners too many chances. I gave them both chances to change, chances to evolve and information about how to grow.
But neither of them listened. I think both of them had narcissistic traits. Of course, I can’t know for sure, but after my second marriage I was fortunate enough to find a marriage guidance counselor who had been married to a narcissist.
Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition in which people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They need and seek too much attention and want people to admire them. People with this disorder may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others. But behind this mask of extreme confidence, they are not sure of their self-worth and are easily upset by the slightest criticism.
The Mayo Clinic.
She was pretty clear about my ex and his behaviors – even if they were reported second hand. They were too similar to her own experiences. I didn’t have to explain myself at all in the counseling sessions. She already knew the patterns.
Born or Made?
I do believe some narcissists are born, but some are also made through the continued abusive behavior of their parents.
A man is who his MOTHER makes him to be…because she controls the HEART.
Iyanla Vanzant
When I first met my ex’s mother I was too full of oxytocin from being in love with my then-boyfriend to truly absorb the family dynamics. I’m sure this is true for many future partners.
She was polite and welcoming, kept a nice house, and was a great cook. In the beginning, I didn’t see her very much anyway because I was in a long-distance relationship with her son, and then even when we were married we were living in different states so our visits were mainly during the holiday season.
Once I was married to my ex and an official family member, I was exposed to more of my mother-in-law’s real behavior. She often behaved really erratically, and ultimately scared my children with her behavior also.
What is an Empath And Why Do They Seem To Attract Narcissists?
Why Do Narcissists and Empaths End Up Together?
Is There A Reading to Help Clear Narcissistic Energy?
Begin with the Soul Star Reading to learn who you are at the soul level. You’ll discover your natural Soul-given gifts, talents, and abilities.
You’ll also learn about blocks and restrictions from a Past Life, and programs that you may have in your Aura from present life experiences.
In my opinion, narcissism isn’t just a modern concept; it began in the past and is an aspect of patriarchal programming.
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