Narcissists and Empaths
Where did Narcissists originate in human history?
This is my answer, channeled from the Akashic Records. Narcissist Groom Empath Bride book.
What is narcissism and why have so many narcissists and empaths been together in relationships?
Table of contents
- What is a Narcissist?
- What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
- Are Narcissists Born or Made?
- Looking Back with New Eyes
- Why Empaths Are Often Drawn to Narcissists
- Is There A Reading to Help Clear Narcissistic Energy?
- Narcissist Groom, Empath Bride Book
- Learn More About The Akashic Records Readings I Offer
- Download the PDF Akashic Records for Beginners
What is a Narcissist?
Having experienced a narcissistic partner firsthand, I can only speak from my own experience.
I’m a naturally kind and compassionate person. In both of my long-term marriages, I gave my partners far more chances than they probably deserved. I believed people could change. So I shared books, suggested counseling, and encouraged them to grow emotionally and spiritually.
I wanted to believe that if someone was loved enough, they would choose healing. Of course, neither of them did.
Looking back, I believe both men displayed many narcissistic traits. I can’t diagnose them—that’s not my place—but after my second marriage ended, I finally found a marriage counselor who had herself been married to a narcissist.
During our sessions, I barely had to explain what had happened because she already knew.
What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
According to the Mayo Clinic:
Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition in which people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They need and seek too much attention and want people to admire them. People with this disorder may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others. But behind this mask of extreme confidence, they are not sure of their self-worth and are easily upset by the slightest criticism.
The Mayo Clinic.
Not everyone with narcissistic traits has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and only a qualified mental health professional can make that diagnosis.
However, many people experience relationships that follow remarkably similar patterns of manipulation, control, blame, emotional neglect, and gaslighting. Whether someone has an official diagnosis or not, the impact on their partner can be deeply painful.
My book is about that lived experience.
Are Narcissists Born or Made?
This is a question that has fascinated psychologists for decades. In my own experience, I believe there isn’t a simple answer.
Some people may be born with a temperament that makes narcissistic traits more likely. Others seem to develop those behaviours through childhood trauma, emotional neglect, inconsistent parenting, or unhealthy family dynamics.
As author and speaker Iyanla Vanzant once said:
A man is who his MOTHER makes him to be…because she controls the HEART.
Iyanla Vanzant
Whether or not you agree with that statement, our early family relationships undeniably shape how we see ourselves, relate to others, and respond to love.
Looking Back with New Eyes
When I first met my ex-husband’s mother, I saw what most people probably saw.
She was polite and welcoming, keeping a beautiful home, and was a wonderful cook.
At the time, I was deeply in love. Like many people at the beginning of a relationship, I was viewing everything through the lens of hope and possibility.
Because ours was initially a long-distance relationship, I didn’t spend much time with his family. Even after we married, we lived in different states, so our visits were mostly during holidays.
It wasn’t until I became part of the family that I began to notice behaviours I had previously overlooked.
Her moods could change without warning. Conversations often revolved around control, criticism, or emotional unpredictability. Over time, I watched these behaviours affect not only me but also my children, who became anxious and uncomfortable around her.
Looking back now, I can see patterns that I simply couldn’t recognise while I was living them.
That’s one of the reasons I wrote Narcissist Groom, Empath Bride.
When you’re inside a narcissistic relationship, it’s incredibly difficult to see the full picture. Confusion becomes normal. Self-doubt becomes familiar. You start questioning your own instincts.
Sometimes you need distance before the pattern becomes clear.
Why Empaths Are Often Drawn to Narcissists
One of the most painful questions survivors ask themselves is:
“How did I end up in this relationship?”
The answer is rarely that you were weak.
More often, it’s because you were caring.
Empaths naturally look for the good in people. We forgive easily, believe in second chances, and often put someone else’s needs ahead of our own. These are beautiful qualities—but in the wrong relationship, they can be exploited.
A narcissist often seeks admiration, attention, and control.
An empath naturally offers compassion, understanding, and emotional support.
At first, these qualities can seem like the perfect match. Over time, however, the relationship can become one-sided, leaving the empath emotionally exhausted, questioning their reality, and wondering where they lost themselves.
Healing begins when you understand these patterns—not to blame yourself, but to reclaim your own worth.
Is There A Reading to Help Clear Narcissistic Energy?
Begin with the Soul Star Reading to learn who you are at the soul level. You’ll discover your natural Soul-given gifts, talents, and abilities.
You’ll also learn about blocks and restrictions from a Past Life, and programs that you may have in your Aura from present life experiences.
In my opinion, narcissism isn’t just a modern concept; it began in the past and is an aspect of patriarchal programming.
Narcissist Groom, Empath Bride Book
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Learn More About The Akashic Records Readings I Offer
One way to grow your awareness of energy is to begin to work with your Akashic Records. This expands the connection to your Soul through your Higher Self (also known as your intuition).
You’ll find that your intuition expands with Akashic Records work, and questions you have on the spiritual journey will be answered. It really helps you to connect the dots.
If you are interested in an Akashic Records Reading, I always recommend starting with the Soul Star Reading.
This reading gives you 3 different immersive experiences of the Akashic Records: –
- Connecting with your Divine Soul Blueprint (Soul-level gifts, talents, abilities).
- Hearing about a Past Life that contains a karmic pattern ready for clearing (you’ll recognize this pattern in your present life).
- Recognizing and clearing present life blocks and restrictions.
If you’d like to know about the different readings I offer on this site through the 6 Spiritual Paths, start here>>
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