Intuitive manipulators: just because somebody is psychically or intuitively skilled doesn’t make them a good person.
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If you’re intuitive, that may be what drew you to my website. Or perhaps it’s why you’re listening to this podcast.
As a spiritual intuitive, I’ve been sensitive to other people since about age three. I could often sense a person’s emotional state, pick up on what they might be thinking about, or notice something unusual in their body language.
This month, my newsletter focuses on recognizing and becoming aware of intuitive manipulators.
I’ve been fortunate to work with some excellent teachers throughout my spiritual journey. As a result of those teachings—and a lot of real-world experience—I seem to have developed a fairly reliable nonsense detector.
Developing A Nonsense Detector
Years ago, I attended two NLP™ seminars with one of the co-creators of NLP™, Richard Bandler. During those trainings, I was introduced to the concept of creating an internal “nonsense detector.”
Part of that process involved learning to trust gut instinct, and it’s a skill that has stayed with me ever since.
These experiences taught me valuable lessons in self-awareness and presence. They also provided useful tools for recognizing when you may be interacting with an intuitive manipulator.
Of course, once you develop skills like these, it’s important to test them in real life.
I remember being at a party several years ago when the topic of truth and lies came up. Someone I had just met—and who had enjoyed a few drinks—decided to test me by telling three different stories.
As I listened, I sensed that the first story was true, the second was false, and the third was a mixture of both. In fairness, I had an advantage because I hadn’t been drinking, but it was an interesting exercise nonetheless.
Understanding Intuitive Manipulation From a Spiritual Perspective
Consider this:
When you’re interacting with someone whose intentions make you uneasy, where does that awareness come from?
Does your stomach tighten?
Do their words fail to match your sense of who they really are?
Does their energy feel spiky, inconsistent, or somehow off?
Over the years, I’ve conducted enough Akashic Records readings to recognize what I think of as scattered energy fairly quickly. Sometimes a person doesn’t feel energetically integrated or whole. Their responses may shift from moment to moment, or there may be inconsistencies between what they say and what they energetically communicate.
When I notice this, it often tells me that the person may not yet be ready to act on the guidance coming through in a reading. Even if their Akashic Guides are offering valuable information, the timing may not be right. Sometimes additional healing, growth, or self-awareness work needs to happen first.
If you currently work with Spirit Guides, you might ask them to help you understand what your inner wisdom is trying to communicate when you suspect manipulation.
For me, clairaudience is one of my strongest intuitive gifts. Often an inner voice—whether my own higher knowing or guidance coming through—will provide insight into what’s really happening beneath the surface. If I’m tired, overwhelmed, or emotionally involved, I wait before concluding. We can’t be spiritual superheroes every day.
Why Do People Manipulate?
If you’re spiritually sensitive or highly intuitive, you may wonder why people choose manipulation in the first place.
The reality is that many people aren’t consciously trying to manipulate others.
Often, people are operating from unconscious beliefs, emotional wounds, inherited patterns, or internal programs they haven’t yet recognized within themselves. These hidden influences shape behavior more than most people realize.
You might think of it as energetic karma. When someone hasn’t developed self-awareness, they’re more likely to react automatically rather than consciously. They act from old conditioning instead of presence.
However, self-aware intuitive manipulators are a different matter entirely.
When Intuition Is Used to Influence Others
As Richard Bandler often emphasized, the key issue is intention.
When someone has positive intentions, that usually comes through in the energetic quality of the interaction.
When someone is focused primarily on controlling a situation for their own comfort, benefit, or gain, that energy often feels different.
An intuitive manipulator may seek financial gain, influence, validation, or power. Initially, their energy can feel exciting, charismatic, and convincing. You may feel drawn toward what they’re saying or offering.
Later, however, something often feels flat or disappointing. Perhaps you’ve already paid for a service, agreed to a request, or committed to something that no longer feels aligned.
If any situation feels “icky,” pressured, or energetically off, permit yourself to pause before making a decision.
Learning to recognize these interactions helps us become more aware of other people’s intentions.
Notice how often the body already knows.
We use phrases such as:
- “He makes my skin crawl.”
- “Something doesn’t sit right with me.”
- “I can’t put my finger on it, but something feels off.”
Those expressions exist for a reason.
Check the Expansion of Your Energy
As intuitives, empaths, and spiritually sensitive people, we often move through the world with a naturally open energy field.
This openness can create beautiful connections with authentic, trustworthy people. However, it can also make us vulnerable to those whose intentions are less than honorable.
If you’re a woman, you may also have social conditioning that encourages you to be nice no matter what. The truth is that there are situations where being discerning is far more appropriate than being agreeable.
So how do we navigate the world without becoming fearful or closed off?
I suggest working with what I call the Three S’s.
The Three S’s for Recognizing Intuitive Manipulators
1. Sensitivity
Your sensitivity is a strength, not a weakness.
Because you have a rich internal world, you’re often able to recognize similar patterns in others. Pay attention to what your sensitivity is telling you.
Don’t automatically override your instincts to be nice.
Listen.
2. Spirituality
If you have a strong connection with your Spirit Guides, Akashic Guides, or Higher Self, use it.
Meditation, prayer, pendulums, kinesiology, oracle cards, and other spiritual practices can all help you access greater clarity.
Trust the spiritual tools that already work for you.
3. Sympathy
Empaths naturally tune into the emotions, thoughts, and experiences of others.
Use that ability wisely.
Notice whether a person’s energy feels grounded, congruent, and authentic—or whether it feels fragmented, spiky, or inconsistent.
Most importantly, honor what you discover.
Final Thoughts
One of the most important lessons I’ve learned on the spiritual path is that psychic ability and personal integrity are not the same thing.
Someone can be highly intuitive, spiritually gifted, or psychically accurate and still be acting from unresolved wounds, unconscious agendas, or a desire for control.
The key is learning to trust your own inner guidance.
When you combine sensitivity, spirituality, and empathy with healthy discernment, you’re far less likely to be influenced by intuitive manipulators—and far more likely to trust the wisdom that already lives within you.
Learn More About the Akashic Readings I Offer
Akashic Records Readings are a type of reading that reviews your current life situations from a higher perspective. I include the perspective of your Divine Soul Blueprint, your Soul’s vibration rate, Life Lessons you are working on, and your Life Purpose. This gives you the structure you need to connect with spiritual information and relate it to your life in practical ways.
With my approach, more clarity results, and daily decisions become easier. Bigger Life Situations can be managed from a clearer starting point. And if we dig into your Success Codex, we can even brainstorm how to get out of stuckness, too. Who doesn’t want that on a Monday morning?
Check out this page to see all available Akashic Readings. I always recommend beginning with the Soul Star Reading if you are new here, since it sets the frame of reference for this approach.
Great post. Thanks Sarah. I needed that reminder today. Big hugs to you!
Hi Danielle,
Thank you for dropping by and commenting. Happy to help – mission accomplished!
Sarah
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